I need good advice to give a single mom searching for answers

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Dear Abby.....

Ask Ann Landers....

[somashekar]

In Reply to Parent Post by biboy2012

Not a Quality topic but nevertheless, here goes :

1. How will I know if this man is really for me?
2. If not, what will I do if there are no potential spouses around?
3. Can the woman make the first move?

Said single lady is a former officemate of mine finally got out of her dead-end relationship. Initially, I advised her to make herself busy and attractive.

Any input would be appreciated.

Hi biboy.. I will take some liberty. Do not get wild with me.
On matters such as this, there is no compulsion on oneself to provide an answer.
In fact the single mother may never be looking for an answer from you that will make her to heed to your advise.
Is she looking for an advice from you or just looking up for you ~~~
One has to trust oneself and then trust the other unconditionally. Sooner that later, under various circumstances it gets clear if the other person is worthy of placing the trust or not. Once lost, no matter what, its not worth building over. In all these matters trust your intuition and equally balance the heart and the mind, practically.
Sooo.. Some questions to your questions >>>

1. How will I know if this man is really for me?

Are you the man in her eyes ?

2. If not, what will I do if there are no potential spouses around?

Do you trust yourself and have the potential in you ?

3. Can the woman make the first move?

The first move is made in this question. Did you read it ?

[RCBeyette]

In Reply to Parent Post by BradM

You?? Passive??

I'm passive...demure...biddable...quiet...obedient...

Actually, I did all of that for one day with a man I was dating for a while, as he wanted to "see" what it would be like for me to the so-called 'ideal woman'. He enjoyed it for the first few hours, but by the end of the day he was practically begging for the real me to return.

I will say this with regard to be an unattached female. As much as I feel single people are 'discriminated' against - I won't go into my political rant here - I am 'whole' with my life. Should I find that special someone to share it with, great! However, I am not going to consider my life incomplete if I don't find that person.

[RCBeyette]

In Reply to Parent Post by BradM

For example, I like eye contact (men or women; teenagers; etc.) So when I talk to a woman who stares at the ground and such, it drives me nuts.

I saw this today, Brad, and IMMEDIATELY thought of you...

"Having eye contact for more than six seconds without blinking or looking away, reveals a desire for sex or murder."

So, if a woman isn't staring at you, at least she doesn't want to kill you.

[biboy2012]

In Reply to Parent Post by somashekar

Hi biboy.. I will take some liberty. Do not get wild with me.
On matters such as this, there is no compulsion on oneself to provide an answer.
In fact the single mother may never be looking for an answer from you that will make her to heed to your advise.
Is she looking for an advice from you or just looking up for you ~~~
One has to trust oneself and then trust the other unconditionally. Sooner that later, under various circumstances it gets clear if the other person is worthy of placing the trust or not. Once lost, no matter what, its not worth building over. In all these matters trust your intuition and equally balance the heart and the mind, practically.
Sooo.. Some questions to your questions >>>

Are you the man in her eyes ?

Hail Mary... I am a married man with a wife and therefore I don't think I am the man in her eyes.

In Reply to Parent Post by somashekar

Do you trust yourself and have the potential in you ?

I think she trust herself, but love is a mutual thing.

In Reply to Parent Post by somashekar

The first move is made in this question. Did you read it ?

We are friends, so sometimes conversations are about work-related, sometimes about anything personal.

[biboy2012]

In Reply to Parent Post by Jennifer Kirley

Good relationships generally have attraction from both sides.

Yes, but maybe hers is a case of "once burned, twice shy"