Where is the romance? Help topic for the married

[bobdoering]

In Reply to Parent Post by arios

PS. I don't like honey-dos but they help to keep a marriage healthy. Could be a punishment for my auditor job. May be I deserve that and even more

Hmmmmmm....I sense the karma there.

[dQApprentice]

In Reply to Parent Post by bobdoering

Hmmmmmm....I sense the karma there.

Does it take both love and war to make things balance, test every relationship, and noticed true romance?

[somerqc]

I don't try to do "honey-do's" in advance. Why? Rule #2 states to see Rule #1 ( Rule #1 states Women can change the rules at any time). My wife when it come to "Honey-do" lists does change it dramatically at times.

But, we do try to get some time away from our little one otherwise we never get a chance to talk to each other. Usually, her parents are good for a night on the weekend once in a while (we even sleep in until 8:30am on those mornings!)

So far we are at 8 years and going strong. Now if we could just stay awake a little later....

[triad]

In Reply to Parent Post by somerqc

I don't try to do "honey-do's" in advance. Why? Rule #2 states to see Rule #1 ( Rule #1 states Women can change the rules at any time). My wife when it come to "Honey-do" lists does change it dramatically at times.

But, we do try to get some time away from our little one otherwise we never get a chance to talk to each other. Usually, her parents are good for a night on the weekend once in a while (we even sleep in until 8:30am on those mornings!)

So far we are at 8 years and going strong. Now if we could just stay awake a little later....

that’s a romantic side of it. but if I ask you about the opposite what is the most painful lines you uttered to your love one? be honest.

[barb butrym]

Didn't take the time to read more than half the posts so I may be duplicating here....and I am going back to the original reason for the thread:

I just lost my husband to a long battle. Till the end he was always the romantic.
What I miss most was the eye contact when he listened. He made everything I said seem important even if it was some foolish rambling of a worn out care giver.
The touch....he'd make of point of touching me as I'd walk by or while we were sitting together.
The winks, The "I love you" for no particular reason.
The UPS deliveries from Home Shopping Channel showing up unexpectedly.
Flowers sent to work.....with just " thinking of you, and wanted to see you smile"

.......worked for me

[dwightgenius]

Romance can be considered as surprise. you can give ur lover a gift like A bouquet of flowers on an ordinary day.

[wmarhel]

In a forum of quality professionals, this topic is a little sad. What's been suggested are patches, band-aids, and other methods that completely fail to address the root cause of the problem.....MARRIAGE. So in the spirit of actual problem solving....not getting married, means there will be no "lack of romance" from or with a spouse. Simple.

Also keep in mind that 100% of all divorces began with marriage.

I would also like to further comment that I strongly believe that marriage is responsible for hair loss among men. Although this has yet to be affirmed by a scientific authority, I hold stongly to this opinion. I have pictures prior to getting married, and over the past twelve years as strong evidence to support this claim.

Wayne

PS: Kids are the real reason your hair turns grey.

[AndyN]

In Reply to Parent Post by wmarhel

In a forum of quality professionals, this topic is a little sad. What's been suggested are patches, band-aids, and other methods that completely fail to address the root cause of the problem.....MARRIAGE. So in the spirit of actual problem solving....not getting married, means there will be no "lack of romance" from or with a spouse. Simple.

Also keep in mind that 100% of all divorces began with marriage.

I would also like to further comment that I strongly believe that marriage is responsible for hair loss among. Although this has yet to be affirmed by a scientific authority, I hold stongly to this opinion. I have pictures prior to getting married, and over the past twelve years as strong evidence to support this claim.

Wayne

PS: Kids are the real reason your hair turns grey.

I fully concur, Wayne.

Indeed, my own root cause analysis points to the real reason being beyond even marriage! Unmarried (co-habiting, 'living-in-sin' etc) couples have such issues of romance missing! Courts even have compensated the extreme disolution of such arrangements by awarding 'palimony'....

I'd venture to suggest that the true cause lies in that there are fundamental and incompatible differences between men and women............and not just the obvious ones!