Boss is too hard on me....

[matkins]

Nikki

I feel your pain. I am in the same situation, but not quite as harsh as your environment. I also cannot leave this job. I work for a small company and the big guy here is an unpredictable micromanager and abusive. I've been here about 2 1/2 years.

I never stopped looking for other employment since I began here, because I am seriously underemployed, but the pickings are slim right now. I've continued to educate myself in other areas to round out my skill set.

My advice is to get your resume out there, look continuously and remember that you have obviously learned a lot in your time at this job. The skill set you have acquired can be transferred into other job areas. Don't feel that you are stuck in the "quality" field. Look at other related fields.

You asked if there are remote opportunities out there. Yes, I found a website called FlexJobs. They specialize in vetted full time, part time, and telecommuting job listings in all kinds of fields. Have a look and good luck.

 

[Wes Bucey]

Nikki

I feel your pain. I am in the same situation, but not quite as harsh as your environment. I also cannot leave this job. I work for a small company and the big guy here is an unpredictable micromanager and abusive. I've been here about 2 1/2 years.

I never stopped looking for other employment since I began here, because I am seriously underemployed, but the pickings are slim right now. I've continued to educate myself in other areas to round out my skill set.

My advice is to get your resume out there, look continuously and remember that you have obviously learned a lot in your time at this job. The skill set you have acquired can be transferred into other job areas. Don't feel that you are stuck in the "quality" field. Look at other related fields.

You asked if there are remote opportunities out there. Yes, I found a website called FlexJobs. They specialize in vetted full time, part time, and telecommuting job listings in all kinds of fields. Have a look and good luck.

Yes! Do something! Anything! When I was bottom man on the totem pole in academia more than 40 years ago, pecked at by tenured professors, my dad told me something that helped me focus and move on:

"Success is the best revenge!"
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The best thing Nikki can do is move on and become a success elsewhere. This is a harsh, but valuable, lesson to look carefully before you leap so you just don't exchange one bully for another.

 

[NikkiQSM]

I'd like to provide a brief update and ask one more question.

I may actually be moving onto to a different company, but similar industry. I spoke to the owner of this company today. I actually was required to go there to perform certain testing for the company I am with now. I love the company, the people, and location.

I expressed my issues with my current employer. We even discussed pay, and the possibility of creating a position just for me. I am very excited, although it is not set in stone yet. I should know in a couple weeks.

If and when this happens - I plan on giving my 2 week notice, although, knowing my boss, he will tell me not to bother and send me home. (That is the usual response he gives to anyone giving their two week notice because he feels when someone is leaving they dont give 100%).

When I am asked for reasons why I am leaving - Should be I straight with my boss and explain that he is the reason?

Or should I keep it short and sweet and simply say I wanted a change?

 

[insect warfare]

I'd like to provide a brief update and ask one more question.

I may actually be moving onto to a different company, but similar industry. I spoke to the owner of this company today. I actually was required to go there to perform certain testing for the company I am with now. I love the company, the people, and location.

I expressed my issues with my current employer. We even discussed pay, and the possibility of creating a position just for me. I am very excited, although it is not set in stone yet. I should know in a couple weeks.

If and when this happens - I plan on giving my 2 week notice, although, knowing my boss, he will tell me not to bother and send me home. (That is the usual response he gives to anyone giving their two week notice because he feels when someone is leaving they dont give 100%).

When I am asked for reasons why I am leaving - Should be I straight with my boss and explain that he is the reason?

Or should I keep it short and sweet and simply say I wanted a change?

I really don't do exit interviews, but mostly anything I do would depend on my mood at that particular time and space...

On one end, I would like to get everything off my chest (be on him like white on rice in a glass of milk on a paper plate in a snowstorm) and leave feeling rejuvenated and free of anxiety.

On the other hand though, I would take "the higher road" and not give him the satisfaction of knowing what effect he had during my tenure - "Joe Who?....oh, that guy...I think he used to be my boss a long time ago. Nothing special stood out about him, though".

And then again, maybe I'd flip a coin...

Brian

 

[Jim Wynne]

I'd like to provide a brief update and ask one more question.

I may actually be moving onto to a different company, but similar industry. I spoke to the owner of this company today. I actually was required to go there to perform certain testing for the company I am with now. I love the company, the people, and location.

I expressed my issues with my current employer. We even discussed pay, and the possibility of creating a position just for me. I am very excited, although it is not set in stone yet. I should know in a couple weeks.

If and when this happens - I plan on giving my 2 week notice, although, knowing my boss, he will tell me not to bother and send me home. (That is the usual response he gives to anyone giving their two week notice because he feels when someone is leaving they dont give 100%).

When I am asked for reasons why I am leaving - Should be I straight with my boss and explain that he is the reason?

Or should I keep it short and sweet and simply say I wanted a change?

It sounds like you might have to deal with your present company if you move on to the new one. This means that unloading on your present boss will likely have undesireable consequences somewhere down the road.

 

[HPLC_Help]

I'd like to second Jim's response. Take the opportunity to move on if you can, but try not to burn any bridges. Your current boss sounds like the type that he may want to start some fires on his end, but you don't need to provide him with the gasoline.

H_H

 

[Wes Bucey]

Given what you've written about the situation in the past, I doubt the question would be asked, but I echo the idea to not burn bridges. The comment, "It's time to move on. Thanks for everything you've helped me learn. I hope things go well without me. If you need anything special before my last day, just ask."
is probably the limit of any "exit interview" answers you should be willing to give.
Any animosity or anger you feel should NOT be expressed.

Why give the guy ANY excuse to bad mouth you more than he has already?

I do think you should have been more circumspect in discussing [gossiping?] with the potential new employer about your difficulties with the current one. Only time will tell, though. Good luck!

 

[Jen Kirley]

I agree with Jim and Wes. Based on our discussion so far my guess is he wouldn't understand or properly use the truth even if he had it.

 

[NikkiQSM]

I agree with Jim and Wes. Based on our discussion so far my guess is he wouldn't understand or properly use the truth even if he had it.

Thanks very much all. I am still waiting for the offical word that I can move on, but until then, I am still working hard.

When the time comes, I will simply say that I needed a change and hopefully things will remain peaceful.