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General Elsmar Cove Forum Participation Rules and Guidelines


Captain Nice
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General Rules and Guidelines for the Elsmar Cove forum

We consider this a "family site", which also means *Office Friendly* for people who visit from their place of employment, and the guidelines we use to moderate the discussion forums are based on the "PG-13" rating for movies. Obviously, this means that there is a certain amount of subjectivity at work here. Moderators are given wide latitude and you can expect that we will make some mistakes from time to time.

We cannot please everyone all the time. Our goal is to establish a happy medium that will keep the largest number of people pleased with their experience here. One way for you to make a positive impact towards that goal is to remember that not all members here are alike. In addition to the range of opinions in the discussion forums, you will also find a wide variety of ages, native languages, nationalities and cultures. One of the most common sources of conflict is simply the failure to understand and appreciate who you are addressing. If you remember that when you post, and choose your words with a respect for our differences, many disagreements can be avoided.

While we do our best to listen to the concerns of every member, it is important to understand that if you feel attacked (by name calling, belittling, sarcasm, etc.), YOU need to Report the post in question. Verbal attacks will not be tolerated. Moderators will review a reported post, considering its content, context and tone. Additionally, we expect that you will not fuel the fires of offensive behavior by responding in kind.

Participants must understand, however, that relationships develop here that result in some fun between friends. At first glance, these may appear to be verbal attacks but they are allowed as long as they do not exceed the concept of good fun. What constitutes "good fun" will be determined by the Moderators and violations will be reprimanded. For this reason, then, if you are not the recipient of a verbal attack, please do not report the post -- it may all be in fun.

Other members may of course report a post that violates any of the site-wide Elsmar Cove forum TOS (Terms of Service). We do anticipate that violations will be self-corrected by the participation of our members. Like any environment, the discussion forums are healthiest when everyone involved is paying attention.

And we remind all participants that both the guidelines and the Report links here are not meant to allow you to try and enforce your personal feelings about appropriate behavior.

For the same reason, it's important to understand that some members here view these forums more as a playground; a place where they feel comfortable "unwinding." This can take a variety of forms, according to individual personality and style. As a consequence, you will find jokes and innuendo of all kinds scattered throughout these forums.

We chose the PG-13/'Office Friendly' guidelines to help everyone understand the limitations of acceptable content in their posts. But Moderators are not here to enforce a particular view of "taste." The "Ignore" feature of the software is provided to help each user do that for themselves. We expect each member to use it if they find another member to be particularly offensive. Similarly, we trust that each member is capable of choosing what kind of content is acceptable to them. If you find a topic or a post that you consider to be morally or ethically reprehensible, then our advice is not to respond to it unless you are willing to discuss your value system in a challenging exchange of opinions.
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This seems straightforward enough. I guess it's fair to say the *Office Friendly* concept really means "what you could say in the HQ offices of a recognized international company like Exxon, IBM, GE, etc. without fear of being reprimanded or fired."
This does NOT mean what passes for acceptable in a small office run by a despotic bigot!

I have been in some offices run by foul-mouthed tyrants - definitely NOT "friendly."

I've also been in the offices of a really large international company where there was zero tolerance for ANY "blue language" or racial or ethnic slurs on the part of any level of worker from janitor to CEO. Even though I was only a visitor, the zero tolerance place seemed a lot more friendly based on smiles and small talk I overheard throughout the day. The concept even carried over to an off-premises luncheon with a cross-section of office staff because the building cafeteria was closed for HVAC repairs. (This was an insurance company considering investing in a securities portfolio.)



I've been 'lurking' at the Cove for 1.5 years on and off now. This is an absolutely 'insert positive adjectives' site.

I've recently decided to register so that I can take part in discussions and posts comments. But I cannot PM because I understand I need 5 posts?

So I've tried to check if there is a Welcome page, but perhaps juggling the forum and working made me not notice if there is a Welcome thread to just say Hi.

Admin/Moderator, Please feel free to delete this post if I posted it in the wrong thread. Advance apologies.


I'm confused about the "no private messages until you've posted 5 times." I thought I had posted many times, but it's not showing up under my profile.

insect warfare

QA=Question Authority
I'm confused about the "no private messages until you've posted 5 times." I thought I had posted many times, but it's not showing up under my profile.
From doing the math (after checking out your profile), it seems that all the posts you made within the Buy, Sell or Trade - NO Commercial Advertisements forum do not count towards the total displayed on your profile.

I'm not sure exactly how many of the other forums that we post in do not count towards a registered member's total post count, but I'm sure Marc does.

Brian :rolleyes:


Staff member
The thread/ post count only occurs in the business threads. It is a way to encourage members to pitch in and get involved in the threads where people need assistance.:)


Captain Nice
Staff member
I would have to look, but there aren't too many forums which posts in do not count. Since I would have to look at each forum individually in the admin control panel (which is time consuming) to make a list, and I'm too lazy to do that right now, just assume posts count in the forums where we discuss quality and standards and the like.

This has so rarely come up over the years I haven't thought about it in quite a while.


Captain Nice
Staff member
A quick "Bump". To remind and to ask for suggestions on changes considering this is from about 10years ago and many things on the internet have changed, as we have here.

A recent complaint was a phone number in posts. In this day and age, should that be a problem?

Your feedback is appreciated.


Captain Nice
Staff member
About the PM system: As of the date of this post, it does require a minimum of 5 posts.


People would come and register, but not post, and without the "minimum posts" requirement they could, even using a "bot", PM many people SPAM PMs.

The 5 posts minimum to be able to PM registered members is simply a :spam: control.

If someone feels they need to connect with someone, you always contact the admin for help.
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