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It's been my observation most folks who get laid off have succumbed to "Stockholm Syndrome"
because I read and hear comments like:
Let me ask folks who find themselves mouthing such drivel:
There are tried and true methods to prevent yourself from becoming an unknowing pawn in some "big boys' game of chess." You owe it to yourself and family to make yourself as invulnerable as possible to harm when you work for an organization. You need extra awareness when you are a consultant or contractor doing business with an organization and ensure you get paid, not involuntarily subsidize some boss's monthly payment on his Lexus or Maserati. The only way to keep score in a miserable economy like this present one is whether you can cash your current paycheck and whether you can reasonably expect the next one not to bounce.
I did a lot of flying on my recent vacation, before and after that jet sucked up a couple of birds and miraculously landed in the river, rescuing all passengers and crew from a horrifying death. Before, of course, I merely drowsed through the safety drill by the airline hostesses. Afterward, I paid real close attention and one theme struck me like a lightning bolt: Take care of yourself first before you help someone else! (If you can't breathe or float, how on earth are you going to help anyone else, anyway?)
If you are riding a plane and all the oxygen masks drop from the ceiling, are you going to sit there and watch everyone else's efforts before you put on your own mask? I hope not. So, if it makes sense to take care of yourself first when a plane may go down, why wouldn't you use that same sense of self-preservation to take care of yourself when the company is going down? Trust me - the signals in a falling company are just as clear as the signals in a falling plane. The difference is everyone does not have a life vest under the seat in a falling company.
One important point to remember: you won't be the first person in history to get laid off or have a company collapse underneath you. This also means you don't have to reinvent the wheel on what to do if it happens,. More importantly, it means you can use that experience and the experience of hundreds of thousands of others to develop a strategy to assure you don't go from the frying pan directly into the fire when hooking up with a new organization.
Some of the saddest tales I read and hear are those where an employee gets laid off, hired by a new organization, and then laid off again, sometimes within a week or two. I have a strong opinion on what transpired or did NOT transpire to engender such a tragic scenario. How about reading some of your opinions before I list mine?
- Laid off?
- Downsized?
It's been my observation most folks who get laid off have succumbed to "Stockholm Syndrome"
Wikipedia said:
(Wikipedia)
Stockholm syndrome is a psychological response sometimes seen in abducted hostages, in which the hostage shows signs of loyalty to the hostage-taker, regardless of the danger or risk in which they have been placed. The syndrome is named after the Norrmalmstorg robbery of Kreditbanken at Norrmalmstorg, Stockholm, Sweden, in which the bank robbers held bank employees hostage from August 23 to August 28 in 1973. In this case, the victims became emotionally attached to their victimizers, and even defended their captors after they were freed from their six-day ordeal. The term "Stockholm Syndrome" was coined by the criminologist and psychiatrist Nils Bejerot, who assisted the police during the robbery, and referred to the syndrome in a news broadcast.
Stockholm syndrome is a psychological response sometimes seen in abducted hostages, in which the hostage shows signs of loyalty to the hostage-taker, regardless of the danger or risk in which they have been placed. The syndrome is named after the Norrmalmstorg robbery of Kreditbanken at Norrmalmstorg, Stockholm, Sweden, in which the bank robbers held bank employees hostage from August 23 to August 28 in 1973. In this case, the victims became emotionally attached to their victimizers, and even defended their captors after they were freed from their six-day ordeal. The term "Stockholm Syndrome" was coined by the criminologist and psychiatrist Nils Bejerot, who assisted the police during the robbery, and referred to the syndrome in a news broadcast.
- "They [the bosses] couldn't help it."
- "It was nobody's fault."
- "It was the economy."
Let me ask folks who find themselves mouthing such drivel:
- "Did the layoff come as an utter surprise to you?
- "Did you think everything was hunky dory right up to the minute you found yourself on the street with a cardboard file box of your personal belongings?
- "Do you think it was a surprise to the bosses who laid you off?"
- "Were you aware it was inevitable and only stuck around to collect a paycheck while you looked for greener pastures?
- "Did you formulate any "offers in compromise" [to being laid off], such as cut hours?
[my advice: cut hours, not pay rate - maybe you can pick up some part-time work to make up the difference in take home pay.] - "Did you have an on-going, two-way conversation with the bosses on the status of the organization and your job in particular?"
There are tried and true methods to prevent yourself from becoming an unknowing pawn in some "big boys' game of chess." You owe it to yourself and family to make yourself as invulnerable as possible to harm when you work for an organization. You need extra awareness when you are a consultant or contractor doing business with an organization and ensure you get paid, not involuntarily subsidize some boss's monthly payment on his Lexus or Maserati. The only way to keep score in a miserable economy like this present one is whether you can cash your current paycheck and whether you can reasonably expect the next one not to bounce.
I did a lot of flying on my recent vacation, before and after that jet sucked up a couple of birds and miraculously landed in the river, rescuing all passengers and crew from a horrifying death. Before, of course, I merely drowsed through the safety drill by the airline hostesses. Afterward, I paid real close attention and one theme struck me like a lightning bolt: Take care of yourself first before you help someone else! (If you can't breathe or float, how on earth are you going to help anyone else, anyway?)
If you are riding a plane and all the oxygen masks drop from the ceiling, are you going to sit there and watch everyone else's efforts before you put on your own mask? I hope not. So, if it makes sense to take care of yourself first when a plane may go down, why wouldn't you use that same sense of self-preservation to take care of yourself when the company is going down? Trust me - the signals in a falling company are just as clear as the signals in a falling plane. The difference is everyone does not have a life vest under the seat in a falling company.
One important point to remember: you won't be the first person in history to get laid off or have a company collapse underneath you. This also means you don't have to reinvent the wheel on what to do if it happens,. More importantly, it means you can use that experience and the experience of hundreds of thousands of others to develop a strategy to assure you don't go from the frying pan directly into the fire when hooking up with a new organization.
Some of the saddest tales I read and hear are those where an employee gets laid off, hired by a new organization, and then laid off again, sometimes within a week or two. I have a strong opinion on what transpired or did NOT transpire to engender such a tragic scenario. How about reading some of your opinions before I list mine?
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