Laura M said:
If it was my company, I absolutely would. Being the consultant, I can't really take this on without their consent.
Laura, I empathise totally with your predicament when faced with an obstinate Auditor insisting that stuff has to be in the manual because HE says so - and yes, being the consultant, one can't take it on without their consent. I'd ask for it.
I've been in an almost identical situation on 2 occasions: both times, the auditors were frightful, but for different reasons. One was a little Hitler type, who was steeped in 1994 and when questioned (politely) on any of his pronouncements, took it as a personal offence, and got more & more aggro... and this was only the doc review (precursor to the audit itself). He ended up quite literally yelling at me and the client (MD of the small firm) and insisting that all kinds of things HAD to be in the manual because HE said they had to, and utterly refused to give any specific clause references...
I thought about it long & hard, & then rang the registrar, & spoke 'off the record' to a contact there. Her response clearly indicated that this wasn't the first time there had been a problem. I requested the client's permisison to make a written complaint - and did. But I took care to be very, very objective with the complaint, and to stick carefully to facts only - even got someone else to review the letter before it was sent. That auditor is no longer auditing (and IMO a good thing too). Turns out he'd had a lot of back problems & was in a lot of pain that day, which is some explanation, but still no excuse for his quite appalling behaviour.
The other was dreadful for a different reason - spent more time telling my clients what they should be doing differently (in his opinion) after no more than the most cursory look at their system for the first time; they were already certified. I complained about him too, to the same registrar. And believe it or not, all this happened within the same week!
But the registrar responded quite magnificently - were very concerned, and said that not enough people ever did complain. a/ people don't know they can (whereas consultants do) and b/they worry it'll affect their results.
If auditors keep being allowed to get away with this kind of B if not C grade 'service' they'll go right on doing it.
Bottom line: registrars ain't God. They provide a service, and are paid to do so. But if they have fixed little ideas about Their Version of any Standard, and aren't able, let alone willing, to really look at how different companies have implemented that Standard, then I'd look for either a different Auditor and/or a different Registrar, like one who employs better trained Auditors, with a better outlook.
Cheers
Jane