Respect for Elders

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ISO Cheesy

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[/B][/QUOTE] a less-than-popular girl in the class that few like. [/B][/QUOTE]

She sounds compassionate like my boys, but it is so sad that they have "In-Crowds" at this age!!
 
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energy

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The good old days

A few years ago, I was standing with my father-In-Law just shooting the breeze when my niece (about 3 yrs old) ran up to him (Grandpa) and gave him a hard kick in the shin. Before she could fully retreat, he booted her right in that wise little a$$. She turned around and yelled "Hey, Papa, that hurt." He simply told her that if she does again, she'll get another one. She walked away with that pouting little face and rubbing her fanny. I never forgot that and have used that technique several times with my own grandchildren. Know what? It works. They never try it again, at least not from in front of you. For the rear attack, simply raise your foot behind you and they usually get "shinned" by the bottom of your shoe. It's just a phase they go through, particularly when Mom and Dad are preoccupied. That's the lesson for today. One at a time. There are others for the real brats. Later.:vfunny: :smokin:
 
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Randy Stewart

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The thing to remember is that kidswill get attention! They don't care if it's positive or negative, it's attention. I've noticed that my daughter will gets real whinnie if I'm not giving her the attention she wants. I'll stop give her a hug and play for just a minute or two and she's fine.
They learn early what gets attention! We were at the store yesterday and she started walking off again and again. So I started watching her to see what she was doing. When I spent too much time looking at something, she would go only far enough so she wasn't right by my side. When you do the initial look and don't see them. She would stop and watch me to see how close I was watching her, or so it seemed. When I didn't look for her right away she came running up and said Boo! The next time I moved out of her sight and here she comes running and yelling daddy. It was like she was testing me, to make sure I was still looking out for her.
 
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marco kerssies

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well what am i going to say about respect for the elders? Uhm first i am having some coffee. I say i have respect because of my parents really, standing up for older folks in the bus and things like that. On the other hand its nice to go completely forget about those things and just have fun. Otherwise i would really snap, so going out to clubs and such is nice and relaxing also. I dunno if respect can be learned though.
 
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Randy Stewart

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Marco,
I don't see how forgetting to treat others as you like to be treated (golden rule) is having fun. It sounds like you are having fun at anothers expense. If you see a women who looks to be 8 months pregnant get on the bus, are you going to make her stand because it's fun? I don't think so.
Your parents, my parents, taught us how to respect ourselves, that we have purpose. That is how respect is taught, if we (as parents) don't let our children know that they are special then they never learn self respect. If you can't respect yourself you can never respect anything or anyone.
We don't know what someone has gone through in their lives, so the simple rule is - give them respect until they prove otherwise.
 

gpainter

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There is not much respect at all for elders, police, teachers, etc. I think we have all created a world that has forgotten Grandma's rules and we are and will be paying for it.
 
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SteelWoman

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Okay, I'll jump in. I'm also a Boomer but also from the south, where we do still do a pretty decent job of teaching respect. My nephews in elementary and high school have been taught since first grade that they answer questions with "Yes maam," or "No sir." That habit usually sticks with people - I still do it with my coworkers and boss. If someone says something to you and you don't hear it fully, you don't say "HUH?" you say, "Sir?" I'm happy to see my nephews and neices being raised that way, too.

That said, it isn't universal and I do see a definite shifting of that kind of value in many of the younger generation. I have young (18/19) year old employees who think nothing of questioning my authority on a regular basis and treating me and other's disrespectfully (okay, granted they only get to do that ONCE ! :D ) There are two young girls in the office here who also report to my boss and I have seen them SCREAMING at him about some petty issue, talking to him in a way that makes ME blush. I'd sooner die than do that.

I've found that my respect for elders has grown exponentially as I'VE gotten older. I'm blessed to have both parents still living, but in their late 70's it's no fun at all watching them age - and hard not to look at that and think, "one day that will be me." I've found that I now look at ALL old people and think, "That'll be me!" Will some younger person help ME with the grocery bags in the parking lot? Will some younger person volunteer to help me with the lawn when I'm not able to do it myself? What comes around goes around...
 
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CINDY

#39
Being involved in a lot of youth organizations has given me the opportunity to view first hand the amount of parents that are not practicing or teaching their children respect. Income levels, education, extra activities and single parenting seem to play into it about half the time. 4 years ago, we moved to another city. A large contributing factor of the city we chose was the politeness of the children we encountered.

I am a baby boomer as well but not from the south. I was taught not sir or mame, but mr or mrs. My children were also taught mr or mrs only they were allowed to use first names after the proper title.
 

RoxaneB

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Not a baby boomer and, according to some of my coworkers, I'm still just a pup (who takes the occasional QA whacking stick to them), but the topic of respect is a very grey area.

At work, I am professional respectful to my coworkers, even if I know that I do not get along with them outside of work. I don't come to my job to socialize (that may be just an occasional perk, however). I come to make a difference and get a cheque to pay my bills. Workplace etiquette and respect can take many forms.

  • He who takes the last cup of coffee, makes a new pot!
  • He who dirties the kitchen area, cleans up after himself.
  • Ask for my permission/okay before rummaging through my desk (this is a major sore spot for me...people take pens and other small items without asking or telling me...simple courtesy would be appreciated)
  • Holding doors open if arms are full of work/supplies.
  • Not standing/hovering near me if I am on the phone or talking with someone else - quietly interrupt and ask to see me when I'm done.
  • The list goes on and on...

And yet, despite what is to me common sense, so many people are lacking in the simple courtesies, respects, and etiquettes of the work place.

Do I call someone "sir" or "ma'am" at work? No. Mr. So-and-So. Ms. Whatever. Until I have their permission to call them by their first name. That is never done to me however, since I'm one of the youngest people in the building...all the older people assume it is their right to call me by my first name (let's not get into the fact that they never learn to spell it correctly until I mention it several times over).

On the personal side, the "sir"/"ma'am" rule applies still. With my aunts and uncles, my family has never said Auntie So-and-So or Uncle Hey-You. Always first name basis...that is how I was raised. That is what they prefer. They are family, but also friends. Once again, though, would be nice if my family would learn to spell my name properly! :frust:

I respect my parents for their knowledge and love. They have provided me with all the experiences I wanted, pushed when necessary, held me back when required, and occasionally let me try to fly on my own...but were always there when I needed it. Even now. I had to put my cat down yesterday afternoon and despite having company over for supper at their place, they invited me over and tried to cheer me up. How can I not respect, admire, and love that in them?

My Father has minimal post-secondary education and grew up pretty much wild in Montreal as his family took little interest in what he did. He got into trouble, caused havoc in the Canadian Navy, and was the stereo-typical "girl in every port"...until he met my Mom when he was 28 and she just 18.

He's now a "contract CEO". He takes companies that are floundering and guarantees them to make a profit within 1-2 years (if they're willing to listen and apply his knowledge). He has yet to fail. He's worked hard to get to where he is...and I am not only proud of him, I respect that.

My Mom got her BA via distance-education and graduated in her late 20's/early 30's. She got her MBA over 7 years and received it when she was 44. All while holding downa full-time job and raising me and handling my Father. :vfunny:

They taught me everything I know today...and still have much to teach me (not that I'll tell them I said that!). But from the very beginning, I have been taught to respect them, respect those around me as they deserve.
 
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