Re: The dilemma of Falsifying Inspection Results
I'm sure by now many of you think my halo is so tight because my head is so swollen.
From an early age I learned there is a difference between a "social courtesy" and an outrght lie. Mostly the social niceties came from mom or fussy aunts who constanty intoned the mantra, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all."
Carrying that thought a little further. In an interview situation when applying for a job, both sides are testing each other for a "fit." The candidate wouldn't be there if his resume didn't show promise nor would he come if the organization had a lousy reputation. The interview is the opportunity for both sides to make a good estimate of a long term relationship. Think of it as "first date."
Now, Ive been married so long I've almost fogotten about dating, but I do remember you don't say stuff like, "I hope you are not a gold digger, because I'll drop you in a New York minute." The girl doesn't say, "If you don't make at least $100,000 net after taxes, hit the road."
Ultimatums are so FINAL and they sure do kill a conversational flow. Clever people are more subtle and learn a lot more as a result.
Instead of saying, "You better not ask me to lie or I'll blow the whistle on you." The clever guy might say, "Let me ask you a hypothetical: What would or has happened here at this company when a batch of product ready to ship to a customer is suddenly discovered to be nonconforming according to the specs the customer expected to receive?"
Surprisingly, the answer to such an open ended question will be much more helpful in determning whether this is fated to be a long term or short term relationship. Most liars can give a quick short lie, but often contradict themselves or don't make sense when trying to weave a whole story that hasn't been rehearsed.
For example, I would start edging for the door if the guy begins, "Well, it all depends . . ." and the guy would need some pretty fancy footwork to keep me.
Some guys are clueless idiots. That's different from being a venal liar, but either one can be impossible to work for or with.
I'm sure by now many of you think my halo is so tight because my head is so swollen.
From an early age I learned there is a difference between a "social courtesy" and an outrght lie. Mostly the social niceties came from mom or fussy aunts who constanty intoned the mantra, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all."
Carrying that thought a little further. In an interview situation when applying for a job, both sides are testing each other for a "fit." The candidate wouldn't be there if his resume didn't show promise nor would he come if the organization had a lousy reputation. The interview is the opportunity for both sides to make a good estimate of a long term relationship. Think of it as "first date."
Now, Ive been married so long I've almost fogotten about dating, but I do remember you don't say stuff like, "I hope you are not a gold digger, because I'll drop you in a New York minute." The girl doesn't say, "If you don't make at least $100,000 net after taxes, hit the road."
Ultimatums are so FINAL and they sure do kill a conversational flow. Clever people are more subtle and learn a lot more as a result.
Instead of saying, "You better not ask me to lie or I'll blow the whistle on you." The clever guy might say, "Let me ask you a hypothetical: What would or has happened here at this company when a batch of product ready to ship to a customer is suddenly discovered to be nonconforming according to the specs the customer expected to receive?"
Surprisingly, the answer to such an open ended question will be much more helpful in determning whether this is fated to be a long term or short term relationship. Most liars can give a quick short lie, but often contradict themselves or don't make sense when trying to weave a whole story that hasn't been rehearsed.
For example, I would start edging for the door if the guy begins, "Well, it all depends . . ." and the guy would need some pretty fancy footwork to keep me.
Some guys are clueless idiots. That's different from being a venal liar, but either one can be impossible to work for or with.