It sounds like your mentor gave sage advice.
Standards create filters. They define the rules and boundaries. This is precisely a Paradigm. They are meant to assist us, but sometimes they do the opposite. This is why we need to be aware that Standards must change, but with careful deliberation.
My paradigm may be different from yours, and probably is. It is easy to respond to a problem or question with our own paradigms, but if it is different from someone elses, the answer might not make any sense. If we think about it, paradigms control our lives.
Life long standards are created by us, none of them exactly alike. We hear about the "busy noise" which clouds communication. Sometimes it is physical, a loud radio. Other times, it is our own set of filters, our perceptions, values and beliefs. They can get in the way and be as effective as a loud jack-hammer.
To be objective, we must understand the influences of paradigms. We must also make an attempt to understand the paradigms that influence others. We need to be aware of the differences so that we treat each other with respect and allow for opportunities for growth. I am constantly influenced by the shared paradigms of the many contributors here at the Cove and elsewhere.
Keep practicing whay you have learned from your mentor. I believe you both are right!
Regards,
Kevin