Hi tarheel,
You are right about the Red Sox, they do teach one patience! The wallpaper on my computer is a picture of the 1918 team, the last Red Sox team to win the World Series!
I hope that my posting didn't seem pompous or to imply that I have all the answers. I didn't mean to do that. Success to any degree in life always involves a fair amount of luck.
I think that if you take any large group of people, you will always find that the vast majority are honest, some are indifferent, and a small few will be crooked. This is true for priests, politicians, athletes, and businessmen. So if I disagree with anyone, I find it best to start under the assumption that the other person has an honest difference of opinion, either about the facts or about the consequences. That assumption allows meaningful dialogue to take place without a lot of emotion. It also allows me to consider the possibility that I may be wrong myself.
Also I think that it is important to choose one's battles, when it makes sense to put everything on the line. There are some things that are truly not important enough to go to the mat on. You may win the battle, but destroy a valuable working relationship. It is also usually wise to consider beforehand some possible solutions to the problem that will help the other party achieve his goals while accomplishing what you want.
Moreover, if your ambition is to be part of management, then you have to think and act like a manager. For instance, suppose that you have just gone through an extended debate about what to do about a particular nonconformance, and the final decision went against you. Do you accept the decision and present a unified face to the world, explaining the reasons for the decision, or do you let everyone know that you are not in agreement? It's a fact of life that as a manager of any kind, there will occassionally, if not frequently, be decisions made that you don't agree with. It is expected that management will present a united face to the rest of the company.
As far as choosing between dollars and psychology, I like to think that I use whatever facts are appropriate to the situation.
I realize that this is an oversimplification and I could keep going for some time. Just as a final thought, realize that as a manager, you can no longer be one of the guys (or girls). You have to represent "the company" and the decisions that it makes, even if you disagree (assuming no real ethical, legal, or moral issues). This can be the hardest part.