It's a very strange and awkward and even intimidating environment when some auditors come with attitudes like as if they're police officers (as if they're above someone perhaps?). You hire an independent contractors to have them look at your system, tell you things that are compliant and not compliant to the standard, you correct the issues to make the system compliant to the standard and to improve your system, and then continue to be certified - that's the whole purpose of doing this. But, when auditors come with attitudes, things go in unwanted directions. It's a fact. I don't expect the auditors to "help" us, but they are supposed to act in professional manners and have an obligation to explain and clarify to have the auditees understand what they are having to say or what they are asking, and also RESPECT the auditees. If the auditees don't seem to understand what the auditors say, they are ought to clarify or rephrase it instead of giving an attitude and decide as if the auditees knows "nothing." I believe this is the issue that most auditees have when they encounter the auditors who don't explain or clarify what she/he says and decide that something is not compliant without truly looking into what it is and discuss with the auditees. So, it's not so much of expectations of getting "help" to get certified, but the issue is some auditors not trying to understand the auditee processes and/or better communicate in these cases (and some organizations do things in their unique ways so it can be a pain to understand the unique processes, I understand). With that said, some auditors are too much focused on maintaining the impartiality (which is important and a must), but forget to respect and better communicate with the auditees. Don't get me wrong, I've seen very good auditors too and majority of them are respectful, knowledgeable, and very professional. But as important as maintaining impartiality, the auditors must understand that we're humans too. Addressing noncompliance itself won't hurt the auditees' feelings, but there are ways to communicate it with respect. Some auditors lack this skill unfortunately.
ISO 9000:2015
3.10.4 competence
Ability to apply knowledge and skills to achieve intended results
ISO 10015:2019
3.3 skill
Learned capacity to perform a task to a specified expectation
ISO 10015:2019
3.4 knowledge
Human or organizational asset enabling effective decisions and action in context
If auditors are not communicating with the auditees well and not getting the information the auditees have, then I do not believe that is achieving the intended results of the audits (you may only get the shortsighted conclusion), thus it will not be value-added for the organization being audited.
And that was our last experience on top of the auditor billing miscellaneous (that were very questionable) expenses (which CB later credited us). I can care less who thinks what as to how we perceive what we experienced - it is a fact and nothing is going to change. Auditees just need to be respected as much as we respect the auditors. I didn't think this specific auditor respected or cared us at all - if she did, she would have communicated better during the audit, and she wouldn't charge miscellaneous expenses. She probably thought that we would just pay without a question.